Suggest Three Ways to Improve Yourself

For an adult over 30, it seems difficult for me to change myself. But I am far from perfect and, in the following five years, I intend to do three things so that I can improve myself in the future.

The first thing I want to do is to train myself to be more attentive. Sometimes I find I cannot focus on one thing whole-heartedly. There are always distractions which draw my attention away from the thing I am doing. And I may find other excuses to forgive myself. For example: I had a project which should be completed before a certain deadline. But at the same time I might be exploring the functions of a new software. In fact the study of the software could be delayed for a while. But I could not help drawing my attention away from the thing I was doing. The result was that I had to work overtime. Working overtime may be fun, but it all depends on the size of the work. Often working overtime is no fun. So I think I have to train myself to be more attentive and allocate my time more effectively.

The second thing I want to do is to learn to stay calm. It is easier said than done, I know. But I think I have to learn it somehow for I feel I sometimes cannot control myself if I face pressure. I may, for instance, lose my temper and, consequently, ignore the most important thing before me. In a sense, I am totally blinded by my own mindlessness. I do not think this will do me any good. Dealing with pressure is one of the chapters we have to learn in the 21st century. So I have to learn to stay calm as soon as possible.

The last thing I want to do is to re-learn how to build up a more harmonious inter-personal relationship. The older I grow, the more I understand that inter-personal relationship is a knowledge which needs diligent study. Sometimes I may think I am doing a right thing, but people may think otherwise. Then conflicts appear and, in some cases, I may lose my best friend, with rumors and trouble coming behind. So I think a good inter-personal relationship will help me get not only an easier life but also respect from people whom I also like and love.

These three things are what I want to do in my thirties. And I am now hoping for a better tomorrow.

by Thomas Shum